By: Cari-Lee Stevens
I picked up the phone and a man said: “My name is Frank Pondrose (not his real name), I have a speech impediment, so I talk a little slowly…” He had gotten my name from a business where my fitness company does classes. He was looking for a yoga class. Several times in the first few minutes of our phone call, he mentioned how I might want to hang up on him because he spoke so slowly. I was saddened to think that the reason he kept mentioning this was because people had hung up on him. As our conversation went on, he revealed that he had Multiple Sclerosis and the reason for his call was that he was looking for a yoga class that might help him with his strength, balance and co-ordination. We spoke for over 40 minutes and my heart went out to this man. He was diagnosed five years ago and has such a positive attitude. He walks with a walker and can no longer drive because he is legally blind (a side effect he thinks made worse by medications he has been taking), he was unable to continue working and the Dr.’s told him it was probably only going to get worse and that as his brain continued to short circuit, the MS would continue to crawl through his body. He went on an experimental treatment that used chemotherapy to kill the red blood cells in the hope that the body would then make new ones but the chemotherapy ate away at his muscles, including his heart. He said the pain was excruciating. I told him that I would research yoga classes for MS, as our company did not offer this and that a regular class might lead to frustration. We spoke about getting his mercury fillings removed and getting his diet to an alkaline state and cleansing. I recommended a good book that everyone should read “What You Don’t Know May be Killing You” by Dr. Don Colbert.
Two things greatly impacted me about this call with Frank. The first was his positive, open and pro-active attitude. He listened to everything I said with an openness that many people, sick or not, do not possess. He wants to get better, even though the Dr.’s are telling him it doesn’t look good. He is living on a fixed income, yet he is still willing to get out there and do what he can so that he can get better. He has faith even when those around him are not offering uplifting news. The other thing that impacted me was the sad reality that people would hang up on him, especially after him stating that he had a speech impediment. In our conversation he also mentioned that he has had wonderful physiotherapists and others that weren’t so wonderful in the patience department. In telling me this, he was not complaining or judging, he was just stating that for some physiotherapists, working with people like him was not their strength and it tried their patience. I have witnessed people treat the elderly with impatience and disrespect and I shake my head. We are all going to get old someday, if we are lucky. Disease or accident could strike us at any time and take away our physical abilities, impede our speech or alter our looks. If people can’t be nice for the sake of being nice, perhaps they should consider that: “Hey, this could happen to me. How would I like to be treated?” This call today flooded me with a wave of emotions. I am not sure if it is because I also have MS and it hits close to home or if it is because I am sad to see that people are sometimes rude to him when it would probably take very little effort to be nice or if it is because I was inspired by him or maybe a combination of all of this.
This past weekend I read a quote it said: “Smile, it is a language understood by all.” I think this is good advice. You never know what someone is going through or how that smile might touch their heart. These are my thoughts for the day. Have a great Easter Week!
Cari-Lee Stevens is a speaker, trainer and coach. She coaches people through nutritional cleanses and speaks at the corporate level about health and wellness. Her company CLS Fitness Inc. offers Pilates teacher training through the Canadian Pilates Institute as well as corporate and community based fitness classes.
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